Marital Counselling

Every marriage has its share of tensions. It isn't a question of avoiding them but of how you deal with them. Unattended and extended conflict can lead to a process that develops into isolation, and misunderstandings thereby weakening the marital bond. You and your spouse must choose how you will act when conflict occurs

Couples with poor conflict resolution skills typically engage in Fight, Flight, or Freeze behaviors. They fight and engage into ignorant behavior, sometimes holding grudges for years. They flee and avoid important issues by sweeping them under the rug. Or, after endless arguments with no resolution in sight, they freeze emotionally and shut down. Someone who freezes in a relationship typically goes through the motions on the outside, but has stopped caring on the inside.

The marriage needs to be given at least a single chance before taking any harsh and irreversible legal steps.
Marriage Counseling with the help of a professional counselor can help resolve even the gravest of conflicts thereby saving a marriage and consequently 2 families.

The counseling process:

Know your client - Know your Counselor:.
It is of vital importance in any sort of counseling that the client and counselor should be acquainted in order to develop a bond and gain each other's trust. The counselor should especially be aware of the client's age, occupation, family background, educational background and interests. Such exercise helps in problem identification and in offering the right solutions.

Understanding the Discordance:.
The counselor should then proceed to asking the problem's faced by the married couple. It involves patient hearing of the narration provided by each spouse. If required the counselor should listen to one spouse in the absence of the other. After the recital of events by the clients the counselor shall ask any additional queries as may be necessary. The step shall involve making of any notes or case papers as conducive.

Problem Definition:.
The most important step in counseling is the problem definition. The counselor has to understand the problems faced by the client in the backdrop of their demographic and psychographic data and then word it appropriately. This activity helps the clients to understand their problems with enhanced clarity and also helps the counselor to take appropriate steps.

Offering the right set of Solution:.
Each client and their problems being different, it is desirable that each client be given a right combination of solutions out of all the possible techniques available.

Setting the Objective and Action Plan to achieve them:.
The counselor should set the objective of the counseling exercise and should chalk out a time relative action plan defining the objective to be achieved within a given time frame.

Future Sittings:.
The counselor shall inform the clients beforehand the agenda of the future sitting if any and the day on which such sitting shall be held.

Marital Counseling has proved to an effective tool in eradicating the disputes and helping couples revisit their joyous phase of togetherness. To avail the benefits of marital counseling visit our Free-Advice Section here and book your appointments with our Senior Counselor. Clients availing appointments through our website shall be eligible for a free first session.